45 y/o tired of sex with hubby

Dear McHottie,



Great idea! I'm a bit nervous though about asking but here goes.



I'm a 45 y/o straight woman whos been married to a wonderful man for 20 years. We've got 2 great kids in their teens. Our marriage is strong but I'm just not sexually interested anymore. What do I do?



"jen"



Jen,



Congrats on deflowering the blog! Kinda ironic in the scheme of things when we look at the body of your question. Annnnyway....



You say you're not sexually attracted to your husband anymore but you do seem to at least like him and likely still love him. First I'd go to your family doctor and explain whats going on and request lab work to test your testosterone levels. Yes kiddies... its not just for boys and 'roid heads... its actually a very important hormone for sexual function. I digress... Get that checked first, its quick and might explain things if your levels are low and is the easist to explain to the husband. Thats of course assuming you have no interest at ALL in sex. If you still physically react and mentally want to fuck the guy at the local firehouse and let him blow a load on your back then maybe you're just bored with him. At this point you've got some decisions to make. You can open a dialogue with your husband about possibly opening the relationship up and if its acceptable then maybe you can bust out the thigh highs and saunter on down to the firehouse. If thats not an option consider divorce. If you honestly have no sex drive, and you're entering that age for women albeit a little early, you have some hard decisions. Your husband has needs, you have no desires. Thats the sexual version of trench warfare and will stagnate into misery for all parties. I'd recommend again to consider opening your relationship and allowing your husband a lover as long he's the kind of man that can be respectful and discrete. Is your marriage strong enough to survive that? It survived two newborns and all the trials in between. Perhaps it can survive this. With solid communication and concessions from both sides I think you can weather this but communication is key.

McHottie